7 Ways to Stay CALM in ANY Situation [VLOG]

You can't have an effective conversation with your child if you are unable to remain emotionally centered. Modeling emotional self-regulation to your child is the most important non-verbal communication technique you can use to mold their behavior and help them to self-regulate.

Video #3 of our Communication Guide teaches you seven (7) ways to keep your cool in any situation, so that you can avoid the power-struggles, arguing, whining and tears.

I've taken some notes for you below so you can review the concepts in this video at a glance:

VIDEO GUIDE: How to Stay CALM in ANY Situation (Parents)


Where in your body do you feel your emotion?

  • Is your jaw clenched?

  • Is your neck stiff?

  • Is your heart racing?

  • Are you sweaty?

  • Is your body tense?

  • Does your stomach hurt?


Choose one or two statements to repeat to yourself in a tense moment (or create your own):

  • What is she/he really telling me right now?

  • What feeling is behind this emotion?

  • I'm not a bad parent, I'm having normal feelings.

  • It's my job to stay calm and be the bigger person.

  • To her/him this is a big deal, it feels like the end of the world.


Close your eyes and visualize that your emotion is an ocean wave crashing over you.

  • Inhale deeply and hold your breath as it crashes and exhale.

  • Repeat this as your visualize the waves getting smaller and smaller.

  • You'll ride out the peak of your emotion and start to calm down.

  • Repeat for 90 Seconds to get through even the most stubborn emotion.


If you just can't get a handle on your emotions, remove yourself by stating...

  • "I need to take space for a few seconds, I'll be right back. I need a calm-down moment."

  • Then take a moment to take a break and meet your needs.

  • There is no shame in feeling angry, frustrated, annoyed, or disappointed. These are normal feelings that come with parenting, and sometimes you just need a few minutes to collect yourself.

  • Come back to the conversation as soon as you can if it still needs resolving.

  • This is a great skill to model to your child and they will eventually follow your lead if you practice this consistently.


Find someone who can help you emotionally regulate yourself. Whether it's your therapist, a good friend, a supportive family-member...etc. Having a reliable support network will help you to gain strength, clarity, and support when you're burned out or feeling like giving up.


Find a few minutes every day to take care of your needs:

  • Sleep a few extra minutes a night

  • Make healthier food choices

  • Exercise

  • Add some fun and joy into your routine


Be present with your kids. When you feel yourself wandering, simply bring your attention back to the present moment.

  • Get down to their eye-level

  • Practice eye contact


  • Think through your actions

  • Act with intent (to solve the problem and help your child grow and co-regulate with you)

  • Do not act on hope & fear, act from understanding and love

Check out Video #1 of this guide here: What is the MIRRORING TECHNIQUE?

Check out Video #2 of this guide here: Responding vs Reacting to ADHD/ODD (4-Steps)

Hi! I'm Yulia,


Executive Function Coach for individuals and families based in Los Angeles, CA. 

I am  a passionate advocate for misunderstood kids, because I was one too! 


Having grown up with undiagnosed ADHD & Anxiety, I can relate deeply to the children and families I serve. 

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