Why work with an executive function coach?

The parents I meet typically have the same list of complaints about their child. You tell me your child is:

 

  • Impatient

  • Impulsive

  • Dishonest

  • Unable to follow directions

  • Easily distracted

  • Easily frustrated; overreacts when something doesn’t go their way

  • Argumentative, defiant

  • Unable to complete difficult or boring tasks

  • Unable to deal with setbacks or failure

  • Lacks confidence

  • Has difficulty maintaining positive relationships

  • Spends too much time on media

  • Procrastinates on homework or projects

  • Loses important items routinely

The truth is that all of these “bad habits” are symptoms of poor executive function, and all of them must be addressed at the root in order to create lasting change (this means learning how to respond to these symptoms rather than reacting to them).

What is Executive Function?

You can think of your executive functions as your brain's mission control center.  Basically, this part of your brain is in charge of three main functions:

SELF-CONTROL: Resisting impulses, regulating emotions, and delaying gratification..

WORKING MEMORY: Holding, processing, and applying information to what you're doing.

MENTAL FLEXIBILITY: Visualizing or thinking about something in more than one way; switching from one task to another. ​​​

 

Working together, your executive functions allow you to regulate your emotions, think before you act, solve problems, and delay your gratification so you can reach the goals that are meaningful to you.  

Kids with ADHD do not have the ability to stop and think through to the consequences of their actions. Instead, they act on their emotional impulses and get stuck repeating dysfunctional routines and self-defeating habits. Not because they don’t care, not because they are willful or defiant, but because they do not have the skills.

This is important: When your child feels anxious or afraid, the emotional center of their brain (or the amygdala) sends a fight, flight, or freeze signal to their body that scrambles their executive functioning. Therefore, the key to helping develop your child’s executive function is creating an emotionally safe space for them to express themselves without judgment or shame, and to feel comfortable coming to you for support.

Parent like a coach.

The most important role model in your child’s life is YOU.  Thanks to our brain’s mirror neurons - which help us interpret the actions, intentions, and emotions of others - your child subconsciously interprets and reflects your emotions and behaviors. Therefore, to help your child develop their executive functions, you must first model your own.

 

If this seems daunting, don’t worry. I walk you through it step-by-step, in plain English, and with a practical approach that helps you to focus your energy on what matters - creating a high quality relationship with your child and modeling the skills you want them to learn.

 

I have simplified my program to focus on three main areas:

 

EMOTIONAL REGULATION Learn how to manage your emotions, act on your values, and create a safe space for your child so that they feel heard, felt, and understood.

PRACTICAL SYSTEMS:  Learn the exact, step-by-step systems that help you shift your mindset, communicate assertively, and establish more functional routines.

GROWTH MINDSET:  Learn how to think flexibly to solve problems, eliminate unnecessary stress, and help your child develop a growth mindset.

 

These aren’t tips or tricks to get your child to act a certain way. I created this program to help you radically transform your relationship with your child so that you can become an effective role model and executive coach for your child.

Are you ready?

For the most part, your brain works on autopilot;  95-99% of your feelings, thoughts, and habits are subconscious and reactive.  I call this mindless action.

I work with parents who understand the importance of deep self-work.  They are ready to take responsibility and mindful action toward their goals.


In order to execute my program successfully, you must first ground all of your actions in your values rather than your emotions and impulses.

The first step in your MindFull Education is adopting the following nine principles, each based in your brain's executive functions.

 

#1 Stop and think

#2 Don't act on your emotions

#3 Don't wait until you feel like it

#4 Don't rely on your memory

#5 Go with the flow

#6 Create happy spaces

#7 Design your day

#8 Chase your fear

#9 Play, have fun!

It won't be easy,

but it will be worth it.

Change is a process.

 

  • There are no shortcuts - we are playing the long game.

  • You will be required to walk away from your comfort zone.

  • You will need to let go of control and trust the process.

  • Things will get more difficult before they get easier.

  • You will have the urge to resist change and fall back into your old habits.

  • Your child will test your strength and test your patience.

  • All of this is part of the process of transformation.

  • This stuff really works if you work it.

 

If you’re still reading and still excited about this program, then I am excited to work with you.  Fill out this application to let me know how I can be of service.

Hi! I'm Yulia,

 

Executive Function Coach for individuals and families based in Los Angeles, CA. 

I am  a passionate advocate for misunderstood kids, because I was one too! 

 

Having grown up with undiagnosed ADHD & Anxiety, I can relate deeply to the children and families I serve. 

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