Hi parents, Quick quiz! When your get within two feet of your child they feel... A) Safe, loved, and seen. B) Nothing, they're too absorbed in their phone and it drives me crazy! C) On edge, impatient, or annoyed. Most of the time when we talk about Executive Function - we are talking about getting stuff done (executing). But long before you can help your kid develop the mindsets, habits, and systems to get stuff done, you MUST develop the type of relationship that makes collaboration possible. So...I want to do something revolutionary. I want to re-define your idea of parenting. I want you to stop trying so hard to get your kid to listen, to behave, or to get stuff done. I want you to let go of your expectations. I want you to take a deep breath and accept your child for exactly who they are right now. I want you to believe, with every cell in your body, that where they are right now is exactly where they need to be right now. I want you to know that where you are right now is exactly where you need to be. That you are good enough. I want you to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you already have everything you need to be their greatest cheerleader and executive function coach. I want you to save all of that priceless energy you spend on worrying, arguing, pleading, and lecturing your kid and pour it into loving the hell out of them. More than anything, I want you to be a soft, fluffy, cuddly pillow that your kid can land on after a long day - no matter how badly they messed up.
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