Dear parents and educators,
I am willing to bet my right arm that awareness, curiosity, and creativity is far more important to a child's development than is discipline, comprehension, and competency.
Yet, school is OBSESSED with teaching, testing, and improving those last three things.
In an effort to measure your child's performance and productivity schools have neatly organized, standardized, and quantified lessons by category, grade, and benchmark (like an assembly l
Quick quiz! When your get within two feet of your child they feel...
A) Safe, loved, and seen.
B) Nothing, they're too absorbed in their phone and it drives me crazy!
C) On edge, impatient, or annoyed.
Most of the time when we talk about Executive Function - we are talking about getting stuff done (executing).
But long before you can help your kid develop the mindsets, habits, and systems to get stuff done, you MUST develop the type of relationship that
Dear parents, If you're not yet familiar with my Alpha Parent Model, I encourage you to download this PDF guide that breaks it down. Or read it here on my blog (the link opens in a new window). In this video, I walk you through the nine MindFull Principles that I practice in order to navigate the executive functioning challenges that with ADHD and anxiety. These are the same principles that help my clients to master their executive functioning skills so that they can become c
'Alpha' is the first letter of the Greek alphabet, just like 'A' is the first letter of the English alphabet. To be an alpha means to go first or to take the lead. An alpha parent is one who takes the lead and who models the behavior that they would like their child to reflect. This fascinating bit of neuroscience will help you appreciate just how much of you your child reflects. Italian neurophysiologist, Giacomo Rizzolatti, and his colleagues at the University of Parma were
I've been meaning to Vlog on this topic for a while now, because this really is such a common thread among most (if not all) of the families I coach. This mistake is so widespread, I think, because parents make it with the best intentions in mind. Yet, they lack the awareness of how this one mistake is damaging their relationship with their child. This mistake is overfunctioning. Overfunctioning is like a weird, self-reinforcing feedback-loop that keeps parents stuck in a cyc
Check out SFV CHADD's upcoming parent support group on Wed, Feb 27 @7pm. I really tried making this a SHORT video but it was a difficult task because Dr. Brown's talk was so packed with insights and examples of how emotions affect individuals with ADHD. I left out the entire portion where he talked about medication and about the 10 common myths about ADHD (something I'll cover in a future video). So, despite the length (21 minutes), I hope you watch all the way through becaus
Want just the audio? Click here. A lot of parents operate on the false belief that their "unmotivated" child is unwilling to take responsibility, unwilling to prioritize their tasks, and unwilling to take action when it comes to getting stuff done. Especially stuff your child finds mundane, difficult, or not preferred. I challenge parents to question this belief. Because what is often mistaken for a lack of "motivation" is actually a lack of Executive Functioning. When you ca
Parents, It's the last day of the year and the perfect time to reflect back on 2018 before you sweep it (and the confetti) under the rug. I highly encourage you to take 20-30 minutes in the next couple of days (and throughout the year!) to practice this super-critical skill of reflection. When you can reflect on the past and develop your self-awareness, you can recognize your patterns and navigate the complexities of parenting a child with ADHD or Executive Functioning challe
This week's video is about the very important skill of dealing with disappointment, sadness, or being emotionally dysregulated. I have to admit, for the last few days I've been dealing with my deep disappointment with the Supreme Court nomination process. I won't go into details here, that's not what this Vlog is about. Instead, I wanted to talk about sadness, disappointment, and failure. How do you deal with things when they don't go your way? How do you get comfortable with
When you have a basic understanding of how ADHD and anxiety influence your child’s executive functioning, you can start to understand why your child behaves the way they do, and what you can do to shift their behavior slowly over time. Here’s an overview of the three main executive functions, how they affect your child’s behavior, and what you can do everyday to help your child build these critical skills. #1 WORKING MEMORY: The ability to keep information in mind long enough
Watch this short video to learn the top four reasons parents give me for yelling at their kids. Learn how it affects the development of their child's executive functioning. PS, lots of yelling and arguing can be attributed to issues surrounding school. If your student struggles to keep up with their academics or tasks, download my super practical 3-Part Executive Functioning Guide written specifically for parents of struggling students:. #ExecutiveFunction #VLOG #Yelling #Emo
In this video, I talk about a the very common theme of procrastination. I’ll review: 1. Three common beliefs that cause us to procrastinate. 2. Three hacks to overcome those beliefs. 3. The “One Minute” rule I follow to help me beat procrastination everyday. I’m a master procrastinator. I have spent a lifetime figuring out ways to either delay or avoid tasks I don’t feel like doing. I like to think of procrastination as “malfunction” in one of the five steps of executive func
In this guide, I'd like to share with parents what I've learned after interviewing thousands of families and after coaching both typical and out-of-the-box learners. More specifically, I'd like to answer the question, "What do successful students have in common?" I would also like to explain why most motivation techniques fail to work, and share my three-part guide for parents who would like to help their child develop the executive function skills necessary for them to grow