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Dec 2, 2019

When autism grows up with Coach Lynn C. Davison [Interview]

Find the audio version here: https://anchor.fm/alpha-parent/episodes/When-Autism-Grows-Up---Interview-with-Coach-Lynn-C--Davison-e99urb Parents, If the thought of your child becoming an independent adult seems like an impossibility right now, please know that that's OK. Raising a differently-wired child means letting go of the traditional roadmap to adulthood and helping your young adult design their unique path toward a fulfilling life that they can manage - one step at a ti

This kills self-esteem and shuts down executive function [VLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

Nov 24, 2019

This kills self-esteem and shuts down executive function [VLOG]

Dear parents and educators, I am willing to bet my right arm that awareness, curiosity, and creativity is far more important to a child's development than is discipline, comprehension, and competency. Yet, school is OBSESSED with teaching, testing, and improving those last three things. In an effort to measure your child's performance and productivity schools have neatly organized, standardized, and quantified lessons by category, grade, and benchmark (like an assembly l

Yulia Rafailova

Oct 27, 2019

Focus on connection FIRST [Vlog]

Hi parents, Quick quiz! When your get within two feet of your child they feel... A) Safe, loved, and seen. B) Nothing, they're too absorbed in their phone and it drives me crazy! C) On edge, impatient, or annoyed. Most of the time when we talk about Executive Function - we are talking about getting stuff done (executing). But long before you can help your kid develop the mindsets, habits, and systems to get stuff done, you MUST develop the type of relationship that

Yulia Rafailova

Sep 10, 2019

An Open Letter to Parents [Audio]

Click here to listen on Anchor Podcasts. Click here to listen on Spotify. ------ TRANSCRIPT ------ Dear Parents, Your subconscious mind is programmed to control 95% of all your thoughts, emotions, and actions. This "autopilot" mode explains why you have a certain way you do things - the way you gesture with your hands, the way you laugh, chew your food, and the way you parent. While there's nothing inherently wrong with that, if you are not mindful of your patterns and how t

I love you (when you do what I want) [BLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

May 28, 2019

I love you (when you do what I want) [BLOG]

Dear parents, Today I want to explore what it means to love unconditionally. To quote Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. John Amodeo: "Children need to be loved without conditions. As they struggle through life, we need to be unendingly patient — taking many deep breaths, and offering guidance repeatedly. Embodying a consistently loving, accepting presence, we create a climate for safe attachment." - Psychology today You can learn more about Attachment Theory here, but the ba

Debunking 3 MYTHS About "Bad" Behavior [VLOG + PDF]

Yulia Rafailova

May 5, 2019

Debunking 3 MYTHS About "Bad" Behavior [VLOG + PDF]

Parents, This is a short, yet eye-opening guide to understanding what's beneath the surface of your child's BIG emotions and "BAD" behaviors. Download and print this PDF [https://cutt.ly/8tlAGS] for a quick overview of the 3 MYTHS behind your child's behavior and learn three positive affirmations to help you stay calm when your child is feeling distressed, emotional, or frustrated. Leave a comment or email me at yulia@mindfulleducation.com to share your feedback, questions, o

Bully Boundary: developing emotional Aikido [VLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

Apr 16, 2019

Bully Boundary: developing emotional Aikido [VLOG]

Hi Parents, Last week I had a chat with a mom about her young son who was being bullied at school. During our conversation, I mentioned a really valuable interview I had heard on the radio earlier that week about dealing with difficult people and stressful situations. (I was able to find a link! I highly encourage you to listen to this NPR interview with psychologist Lisa Damour.) In this Vlog I share the same tips I discussed during our call and summarize Lisa Damour's aweso

Yulia Rafailova

Apr 6, 2019

An Open Letter to Parents: How micromanaging is making your child sick

Dear Parents, Your subconscious mind is programmed to control 95% of all your thoughts, emotions, and actions. This "autopilot" mode explains why you have a certain way you do things - the way you gesture with your hands, the way you laugh, chew your food, and the way you parent. While there's nothing inherently wrong with that, if you are not mindful of your patterns and how they affect your child's development, then you may be repeating some painful habits that are keeping

Yulia Rafailova

Mar 24, 2019

4 Mindsets of AWESOME Parents

Parents, Being awesome doesn't mean being perfect. In fact, if you could be a perfect person, that would make you a pretty crummy parent. Your child would never see you mess up, grow, or change. They wouldn't learn, from your frustration or sadness, how to be frustrated or sad. They wouldn't learn, from your resilience and growth, how to navigate challenges and face their fears. Instead, your child would feel like they could never live up to your perfect expectations. Each ti

Yulia Rafailova

Mar 14, 2019

Six Core Human Needs [VLOG]

Check out the six core needs below, and keep reading to learn how you can meet all of your child's needs following a few mindful principles that help you parent more intentionally and compassionately. Certainty - Safety, stability, security, comfort, order, predictability, control, sense of consistency. Uncertainty/Variety - Surprise, challenge, excitement, difference, chaos, adventure, change. Significance - Meaning, pride, self-importance. Feeling wanted, needed, special, w

What am I doing WRONG?? Single Biggest Mistake Parents Make [VLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

Mar 7, 2019

What am I doing WRONG?? Single Biggest Mistake Parents Make [VLOG]

I've been meaning to Vlog on this topic for a while now, because this really is such a common thread among most (if not all) of the families I coach. This mistake is so widespread, I think, because parents make it with the best intentions in mind. Yet, they lack the awareness of how this one mistake is damaging their relationship with their child. This mistake is overfunctioning. Overfunctioning is like a weird, self-reinforcing feedback-loop that keeps parents stuck in a cyc

Moms, How to Use the Power of your FEMININE Energy [VLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

Feb 13, 2019

Moms, How to Use the Power of your FEMININE Energy [VLOG]

**West LA CHADD Workshop Info here. See you there, Tues 2/19!** Parents, Although the message in this week's Vlog is tailored to moms of boys, it definitely applies universally to all of our relationships. That's because it's based on the laws of human nature and attraction. The laws of attraction (just like the laws of physics) are ubiquitous and govern all of our relationships. One of the most important concepts to understand when it comes to your relationships is the diffe

STUCK in a Vicious Cycle of FAILURE?? [VLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

Jan 27, 2019

STUCK in a Vicious Cycle of FAILURE?? [VLOG]

Parents, Is your child is stuck in a vicious cycle of failure? Are they failing a class, several classes? Failing to keep their backpack organized? Failing to turn in their work? Failing to brush their teeth most nights? Failing to "launch" in general? In this week's Vlog, I summarize three of the most powerful take-aways that I got from Michael Delman M Ed. in his workshop where he shares the stories and tools from his new book - Your Kid's Gonna Be OK: A Guide to Raising a

Reclaim your brain to STOP YELLING [VLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

Jan 18, 2019

Reclaim your brain to STOP YELLING [VLOG]

Elaine Taylor-Klaus is a certified coach, author, and co-Founder of Impact ADHD, and co-creator of Sanity School. This week she hosted a workshop called "Why are you yelling? Taming the Triggers and Turning the Family Volume Way Down." In this Vlog, I walk you through her four step process for taming your triggers and explain why and how it works to radically shift the energy in your home. Here are the four steps: 1. Recognize the threat 2. Reclaim your brain 3. Choose a pe

The right way to yell at your kids [VLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

Sep 10, 2018

The right way to yell at your kids [VLOG]

Watch this short video to learn the top four reasons parents give me for yelling at their kids. Learn how it affects the development of their child's executive functioning. PS, lots of yelling and arguing can be attributed to issues surrounding school. If your student struggles to keep up with their academics or tasks, download my super practical 3-Part Executive Functioning Guide written specifically for parents of struggling students:. #ExecutiveFunction #VLOG #Yelling #Emo

Yulia Rafailova

Sep 4, 2018

Building Emotional Tolerance [VLOG]

The transition from summer vacation to a new semester of school definitely triggers a lot of emotions for both parents and kids. A major theme last week in my meetings with parents was how to stay emotionally regulated while their child acts out emotionally. Most of the parents I meet admit that they frequently act out of their own frustration when their child is acting out; that It's really difficult to stay calm, especially when you are rushing through a busy day. In this s

Yulia Rafailova

Jul 2, 2018

Practice being present [VLOG]

In this video I answer two related questions: 1. How do I get my child to listen either right away, or very quickly, VS being asked 100X to do the same thing? 2. How do I get my child to do what I NEED them to do? These are such common questions but my answer to these questions isn't necessarily what parents expect, because my solution here is to change the way that you interact with your child on a day-to-day-basis, in order to help them to feel heard, seen and felt. That wa

When autism grows up with Coach Lynn C. Davison [Interview]

This kills self-esteem and shuts down executive function [VLOG]

Focus on connection FIRST [Vlog]

An Open Letter to Parents [Audio]

I love you (when you do what I want) [BLOG]

Debunking 3 MYTHS About "Bad" Behavior [VLOG + PDF]

Bully Boundary: developing emotional Aikido [VLOG]

An Open Letter to Parents: How micromanaging is making your child sick

4 Mindsets of AWESOME Parents

Six Core Human Needs [VLOG]

What am I doing WRONG?? Single Biggest Mistake Parents Make [VLOG]

Moms, How to Use the Power of your FEMININE Energy [VLOG]

STUCK in a Vicious Cycle of FAILURE?? [VLOG]

Reclaim your brain to STOP YELLING [VLOG]

The right way to yell at your kids [VLOG]

Building Emotional Tolerance [VLOG]

Practice being present [VLOG]

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