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Dec 2, 2019

When autism grows up with Coach Lynn C. Davison [Interview]

Find the audio version here: https://anchor.fm/alpha-parent/episodes/When-Autism-Grows-Up---Interview-with-Coach-Lynn-C--Davison-e99urb Parents, If the thought of your child becoming an independent adult seems like an impossibility right now, please know that that's OK. Raising a differently-wired child means letting go of the traditional roadmap to adulthood and helping your young adult design their unique path toward a fulfilling life that they can manage - one step at a ti

Yulia Rafailova

Nov 24, 2019

This kills self-esteem and shuts down executive function [VLOG]

Dear parents and educators, I am willing to bet my right arm that awareness, curiosity, and creativity is far more important to a child's development than is discipline, comprehension, and competency. Yet, school is OBSESSED with teaching, testing, and improving those last three things. In an effort to measure your child's performance and productivity schools have neatly organized, standardized, and quantified lessons by category, grade, and benchmark (like an assembly l

Yulia Rafailova

Oct 27, 2019

Focus on connection FIRST [Vlog]

Hi parents, Quick quiz! When your get within two feet of your child they feel... A) Safe, loved, and seen. B) Nothing, they're too absorbed in their phone and it drives me crazy! C) On edge, impatient, or annoyed. Most of the time when we talk about Executive Function - we are talking about getting stuff done (executing). But long before you can help your kid develop the mindsets, habits, and systems to get stuff done, you MUST develop the type of relationship that

I love you (when you do what I want) [BLOG]

Yulia Rafailova

May 28, 2019

I love you (when you do what I want) [BLOG]

Dear parents, Today I want to explore what it means to love unconditionally. To quote Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. John Amodeo: "Children need to be loved without conditions. As they struggle through life, we need to be unendingly patient — taking many deep breaths, and offering guidance repeatedly. Embodying a consistently loving, accepting presence, we create a climate for safe attachment." - Psychology today You can learn more about Attachment Theory here, but the ba

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May 5, 2019

Debunking 3 MYTHS About "Bad" Behavior [VLOG + PDF]

Parents, This is a short, yet eye-opening guide to understanding what's beneath the surface of your child's BIG emotions and "BAD" behaviors. Download and print this PDF [https://cutt.ly/8tlAGS] for a quick overview of the 3 MYTHS behind your child's behavior and learn three positive affirmations to help you stay calm when your child is feeling distressed, emotional, or frustrated. Leave a comment or email me at yulia@mindfulleducation.com to share your feedback, questions, o

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Apr 16, 2019

Bully Boundary: developing emotional Aikido [VLOG]

Hi Parents, Last week I had a chat with a mom about her young son who was being bullied at school. During our conversation, I mentioned a really valuable interview I had heard on the radio earlier that week about dealing with difficult people and stressful situations. (I was able to find a link! I highly encourage you to listen to this NPR interview with psychologist Lisa Damour.) In this Vlog I share the same tips I discussed during our call and summarize Lisa Damour's aweso

Yulia Rafailova

Apr 6, 2019

An Open Letter to Parents: Micromanaging Impairs your Child's Executive Function Development

Dear Parents, Your subconscious mind is programmed to control 95% of all your thoughts, emotions, and actions. This "autopilot" mode explains why you have a certain way you do things - the way you gesture with your hands, the way you laugh, chew your food, and the way you parent. While there's nothing inherently wrong with that, if you are not mindful of your patterns and how they affect your child's development, then you may be repeating some painful habits that are keeping

Yulia Rafailova

Mar 24, 2019

4 Mindsets of AWESOME Parents

Parents, Being awesome doesn't mean being perfect. In fact, if you could be a perfect person, that would make you a pretty crummy parent. Your child would never see you mess up, grow, or change. They wouldn't learn, from your frustration or sadness, how to be frustrated or sad. They wouldn't learn, from your resilience and growth, how to navigate challenges and face their fears. Instead, your child would feel like they could never live up to your perfect expectations. Each ti

Yulia Rafailova

Mar 14, 2019

Six Core Human Needs [VLOG]

Check out the six core needs below, and keep reading to learn how you can meet all of your child's needs following a few mindful principles that help you parent more intentionally and compassionately. Certainty - Safety, stability, security, comfort, order, predictability, control, sense of consistency. Uncertainty/Variety - Surprise, challenge, excitement, difference, chaos, adventure, change. Significance - Meaning, pride, self-importance. Feeling wanted, needed, special, w

Yulia Rafailova

Mar 7, 2019

What am I doing WRONG?? Single Biggest Mistake Parents Make [VLOG]

I've been meaning to Vlog on this topic for a while now, because this really is such a common thread among most (if not all) of the families I coach. This mistake is so widespread, I think, because parents make it with the best intentions in mind. Yet, they lack the awareness of how this one mistake is damaging their relationship with their child. This mistake is overfunctioning. Overfunctioning is like a weird, self-reinforcing feedback-loop that keeps parents stuck in a cyc

Yulia Rafailova

Jan 27, 2019

STUCK in a Vicious Cycle of FAILURE?? [VLOG]

Parents, Is your child is stuck in a vicious cycle of failure? Are they failing a class, several classes? Failing to keep their backpack organized? Failing to turn in their work? Failing to brush their teeth most nights? Failing to "launch" in general? In this week's Vlog, I summarize three of the most powerful take-aways that I got from Michael Delman M Ed. in his workshop where he shares the stories and tools from his new book - Your Kid's Gonna Be OK: A Guide to Raising a

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Jan 18, 2019

Reclaim your brain to STOP YELLING [VLOG]

Elaine Taylor-Klaus is a certified coach, author, and co-Founder of Impact ADHD, and co-creator of Sanity School. This week she hosted a workshop called "Why are you yelling? Taming the Triggers and Turning the Family Volume Way Down." In this Vlog, I walk you through her four step process for taming your triggers and explain why and how it works to radically shift the energy in your home. Here are the four steps: 1. Recognize the threat 2. Reclaim your brain 3. Choose a pe

Hi! I'm Yulia,

Executive Function Coach for individuals and families based in Los Angeles, CA.

I am a passionate advocate for misunderstood kids, because I was one too!

Having grown up with undiagnosed ADHD & Anxiety, I can relate deeply to the children and families I serve.

QUICK LINKS

An Open Letter to Parents
Parent Self-Assessment
Student Self-Assessment
Contact Me (coaching)
Contact Me (talks/workshops)
Resource Guide
Youtube Channel
Blog

"Nobody said it’d be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.” — Dr. Seuss

QUICK LINKS

An Open Letter to Parents Parent Self-Assessment Student Self-Assessment Contact Me (coaching) Contact Me (talks/workshops) Resource Guide Youtube Channel Blog

An Open Letter to Parents
Parent Self-Assessment
Student Self-Assessment
Contact Me (coaching)
Contact Me (talks/workshops)
Resource Guide
Youtube Channel
Blog